2 de Abril, 2007
Blogroll Drama, Reprise.
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DESPITE YOUR FRENZIED SCREAMS, the Great Bloglist Purge Dram-a-Rama rolls on! For those who find blog posts about blogging or blogging netiquette inherently irrelevant, move on with my blessing. I can't help but think that no matter how I edit this piece, it remains utterly boring and insulting to your intelligence due to what the hell I'm bothering to waste my time writing about. On the other hand, the illusion called "the Blogosphere" does depend on some common discourse tying us together, eh?
Ahem. For those who follow these interblogulary dramas and find them fascinating in that same perverse vein that compels you to offer someone you love a taste of the soured milk you just drank so they can empathize, read on!!!!!!!!
I'm thinking these things—all these feelings and drama over blogroll purges—have a lot to do with each person's individual view of the Internet, their own function as a BLOGGER upon it, and what it would mean to fulfill that function vs. not to fulfill it. I guess it's true, I mocked the entire discussion when it first came up because I just found it so ridiculous. But...as I read more, I understood what people's feelings could be on it. Feeling they helped the now-big doodes up and were since being dissed.
My personal feelings? Just so we know until next time I address it? I just don't really care. I'm more of a "fate will shake it out, as long as I do be my realest, I accept the dealeth." My focus is on writing those things that inspire me to write on them. But again, our feelings on this can rely heavily on what we use the beast for.
Hell, this blog is pretty small, "B list" and all that, the last little funky internet judgment quiz I subjected myself to. And...whatever. If it's meant to get more readers, it will. And I'm enjoying myself right here, you know? It's all gravy. Because it's all temporary. And in this time, I'm having just as much a good time and learning just as much as I was when I was a "D-list" blogger. So what, then.
That's personally. Theoretically? Yes, I do think people have the right to rearrange their blogrolls however they damn well please. To say otherwise is to assume some kind of collusion of power dynamics interested in heeding ethical viewpoints of some of the colluders. That is to say, you deny the inevitable. People change, and some people when they change, feel no compunction about changing their associations. And did you agree on what it meant to share the association of a link? Others have a different view of something they call "loyalty." There is no reconciling those views. And each person is going to have their own goals and what they see as necessary to achieve them.
I guess this interpretation (of mine) avoids the moral discussion, but I'm more interested in looking at it as the dynamics of power, human nature, and practicality. I see it as inevitable. Guess what? I don't think all your friends would buy you a new car if they hit the lottery, either. And they actually know you.
Coming from a different angle, I will not accept the byproduct of someone else's morality (guilt) as a means of levering weight on the design or affiliation choices of my own blog. It's a one-off, see? That is to say, we're on our own. Or not. It's up to us. Honestly, if someone doesn't want to link me, don't. If you do, I assume it's because you want my link on your page. I know I don't link to you to get it back. But hey—if I de-link you and it hurts you in an important way, you can de-link me, too, if you feel the need. Don't even lose a minute of sleep over my feelings. Take care of yourblog.
I look at linking...in a post, if I want to refer to something. On my sidebar links exist either because a) I want to promote the reading of that site [doesn't mean I always do], or b) I do read that site, or c) I support the idea of sending traffic to that site, or d) I haven't got around to taking it off. Because I reserve that right, and I don't need a special day to feel okay with it. I'll just do it if the decision feels right to me for whatever reason. Just like I'll affect my own person or personal space in the same way, with the same amount of warning. If I promise you something, or agree on something, that is separate, of course. And you are always free to write me and ask me to keep you on. I am always open to dialogue until I am not.
On the other hand, let's speak in the general: If you became "big" and I was one part of why and you chose to dissociate yourself from me once you got "big," I would think you were not so cool. Maybe even a schmuck of a certain type. If that is the case, am I going to chase down a schmuck to have them rub my tummy? Nah! In one swift movement, by dissociating with me, the so-called schmuck has unknowingly heeded my unspoken will, which would be in the instance you ever get too big for your britches and are willing to forget my hand in your destiny, then please remove all associations and symbols of our friendship, as I would not want to be associated with a schmuck, thank you! So we're good.
That being said, can I really say that my linking to a blog is ultimately what makes them "big?" That seems to require a leap of logic. Or at least a focus I don't naturally resort to. When I linked Person X, did I not act on my own free will and for my own reasons? Why do I feel beholden to some piece of their "bigness?" Did I not link to them because I saw some skills or worth? If so, how dare I complain that others saw it too? Now I want to take credit for their success, rather than remember what caused me to aid it?
I say that if you have the power to make me Big, then you have the power not to, right? So why, if your link made someone "big," then does taking it away not make them "small" again? There is your vote! There is your say. Link or don't. Get on with things. You have to really get metaphysical to assume that your early-on contribution as a link on a sidebar (and advantage you also had with their link to you once) entails you to some lifelong commitment or reciprocation that cannot be adjusted.
I know I may be at odds with some of my blogmigos on this, maybe. I mean nothing personal against anyone who holds the opposite or varying views. The whole discussion just feels so cliquey and suburban to me. You know? I hope my tone in this post is not simply a reaction to "having" to keep reading posts on it. Because a) do I really "have to" keep reading them, or did I choose to, like you? And b) if so, I am not helping anything by writing this!
I say just do your thing. Let your focus be on Your Thing. That will insure you are putting out top notch junk. That will get you linked. And if not, at least you are happy doing Your Thing!
I haven't linked to these posts out there because...I just want to comment on the discussions, I just needed to note all my thoughts and feelings on it right now. Links feel as if they request a response, or as if they mark this post as a response to them. And I don't really intend that. I shouldn't even post this. I hate myself for keeping the conversation going. (But I forgive myself for indulging such decadent whims, too, so we all win.) At the same time, it doesn't feel fair to omit them. So here are some posts that inspired this. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6 [what a gorgeous opening image (and cool title) on that last one]
Now...can we please stop talking about blogrolls? (I mean, after you comment, of course.)