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15 de Abril, 2007
Shortly After We Removed the Editorial Lobe
Categorized under Palabras | Tags: Outtakes and Remakes
IT IS AN AMBITIOUS LEAP, isn't it? From Self to All? I wonder what that thing is. That thing that fuels the jump from feeling I know what is best for me to what is best for others. True, we are sometimes called upon to assume as much. When you have children, for one thing. Moments with your friends? Even taking care of a younger sibling. It surely is a necessary presumptousness. Damn. Did I spell that right? Presump...whoa. That word is far too unwieldy.
It surely is a necessary arrogance, and so we can't hope, nor would we want, to weed it out. See? There. I just did it. I said "we can't hope to weed it out." Why did I do that? Why not "I?" Well. That sounds far too fatalistic, surely. Put in the first person. "O...I'll never weed this out. Just me and this weed, forever. A lone, fuzzed, thorny stem, myself, and this tiny room with the cracked window."
But if I gather the rest of the world under my umbrella, and together we bravely admit (using my voice, of course) that none of us can ever "weed out" this arrogance, who can really blame us? It is a hard lot we hoe. Row? A hard row? A hard party we throw. That's the royal tense, isn't it? The "we." Sometimes I wonder where the hell I picked up some of this stuff. "One" is the best. The old "one" pronoun. It fits so damn properly. But it never wears smooth. It never gets small and comfortable in your hand. "One would think that after all this time, Mister Kratchet, we might dispense with the formalities." "Certainly, Edison. If that is your wish, I shall, of course, acquiesce."
It sometimes is a required assumption (now "assumption" is right, i know that's right but after all this headfuckery it looks oddly suspicious...i think i've stared at the sun of presumptuousness too long and now everything's blue up) it is sometimes a necessary obligation, this "knowing" for others what is best. But clearly, a problem comes in with exactly where to draw that line. Has this ever been laid out? "Dear son. Here is a list of when to presume to know for others, and when not to. So listen up."
Yeah...probably! I guess there is a little of that. It's such magical thinking, though, it seems to me. And yet we—okay, I—get sucked into it over and over again. Especially when others start assuming they know what's best for me! I'll be all good, just doing my thing, figuring out where to flow, and when to row, and then someone will jump up in my grill assuming they know my deal, and it's ON, bro! Then, the gloves are off! Just watch out! I'll presume the shit out of you before you get the chance to see the whites of my eyes. That was somehow extremely disgusting.
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Comentarios (8)
Carmen dijo:
Well, from an existentialist point of view, every time I choose for myself I choose for you, too.
Palabras por Carmen spat forth on el 15 de Abril, 2007 at 09:54 AM
nezua limón xolagrafik-jonez dijo:
i know. that's why i was so careful using the soap this morning! i wasn't sure how everyone's skin would react to it.
Palabras por nezua limón xolagrafik-jonez spat forth on el 15 de Abril, 2007 at 09:59 AM
Carmen dijo:
Your soap?!? Only the thin skinned will have a problem with it.
Palabras por Carmen spat forth on el 15 de Abril, 2007 at 10:46 AM
nezua limón xolagrafik-jonez dijo:
ah...good! that's good to hear. because i really enjoy the scent.
Palabras por nezua limón xolagrafik-jonez spat forth on el 15 de Abril, 2007 at 11:29 AM
Ben dijo:
Nezua,
Gestalt therapy and language may interest you. It's something I learned about studying social work.
The idea was to help people own their own thoughts and feelings (and this blog is all about owning and empowerment.)
Examples:
I want to pay the rent NOT I have to pay the rent (you don't have to do anything)
I feel cold in here NOT it's cold in here (Kills any arguments over perception)
I like your coat and the color is off NOT I like your coat but the color is off (but often times negates the previous clause)
I think NOT we think (as this entire post points out, talking for other people is a tricky business)
There is a LOT more to Gestalt therapy than just the language, but that is what most coincides with this blog.
See more here
Palabras por Ben spat forth on el 15 de Abril, 2007 at 04:16 PM
nezua limón xolagrafik-jonez dijo:
ben, i appreciate that. i got my first degree in psych/counseling, and spent years in this kind of stuff, both academically as well as in the field, and institutions. so i'm all too familiar with CBT work and all the rest of self-empowering type paradigms...yet, i'm human, and after years in this rigid type of "healthy" vs" not-healthy" type of behavior mod stuff, i've about had enough of such focus. it us useful, but by now i've pretty much integrated what i want to, and the rest i rememember and then forget as it suits me. :) nowadays i just like to kick it on the organic, quite imperfect yet still flexible and willing to bend back and forth tip. if you read a while, you'll definitely hear lotsof reference to this type of thing. also in my archives. i was sort of just playing around in this post.
thank you for the link and the thought, of course.
Palabras por nezua limón xolagrafik-jonez spat forth on el 15 de Abril, 2007 at 04:26 PM
Chuckie K dijo:
Why did I forget to say this yesterday? U - there is another U, pre-sump-tU-ous.
Palabras por Chuckie K spat forth on el 16 de Abril, 2007 at 05:10 PM
nezua limón xolagrafik-jonez dijo:
i'm sensing you all aren't too used to me being stupit-lee humorous. hmmmmm.
Palabras por nezua limón xolagrafik-jonez spat forth on el 16 de Abril, 2007 at 05:48 PM