True, true, this is a War we all must wage; can we fight Anger over there so that Anger doesn't attack us over here?

Very funny. But, truthfully, if I could eradicate the anger in my heart with a gun, I'd be toast. Meditation, visualization and prayer seems to be helping some, though.

A War on Toast is next, no fear.

Now that just pisses me off.

Nez:

I am so fucking pissed off at angry people, I just want to kill them all!--do you think I can get some help writing a grant proposal?

Damn it feels patriotic in here.

I can't drink or use "recreational" drugs for the last ten years {bad kidneys}, so I have to avoid all types of aggravation and frustration. Otherwise no way to wind down. My work is full of these qualities however, so each day I am constantly in an extreme state of rage and want to kill the people I work with. I think of my stay in prison so that I will not "act out". I say to myself "Remember, prison is even worse than this!" and I try to be a good boy. Really, it is only the thought of prison that keeps me from being one of those guys that you see on the news that have made videos of themselves making stupid and angry commentaries about what life is doing to them and how they plan to even the score. When the prison meditation just isn't doing the trick, I leave the job right away and get on to some other thing for the day, like watching my plants grow. All day, until I get away from the people at work, I am doing my best not to be a homicidal maniac and also I am afraid of what will happen if I forget to remember prison.
I am not one of those people who believes that prison is not a deterrent. Religion doesn't really work to keep me in line because I have studied too many religions and all the different tenets just confuse me.
If only I could turn back the clock and be a happy, calm, self fulfilled substance abuser as in my halcyon days gone by. Or just kill someone already and get it over with.
Excuse me, I'm going to discuss this again now with my plants out behind the office.

i think this War on Anger is working because i feel calmer already.

Surely it is time to target the true enemy, it is time to declare war on peace. And the last one standing wins! (a small irradiated rock that used to support life).

A War on Toast is next, no fear.

Screaming into my communicator.....

TOOOOAST!!!

CAPTAIN! I CANNA DO IT! MY JELLY IS ALL BURLED UP!

I actually have a serious question about this: I appreciate anger. If I didn't feel it I would not necessarily know something was wrong. Sort of like pain: it gets your hand off that hot stove before more damage is done.

Therefore I do not understand why anger is currently supposed to be so bad. I've also been told it is "secondary to fear," i.e. it is a defense against a fear that you fear to confront. I think this is convoluted hogwash.

Is there something I am missing?

If you are not against the angry then you are with the angry. Now we just need to define someplace "over there" we can fight them so we don't have to fight them "here". Preferably somewhere that already supports angry people and has an exploitable resource . . .

Cero:

You pose an excellent question.

Let me answer it by saying this:

Anger, so long as it's resolved without physical or emotional violence against others is a totally awesome emotion, just like love or grief or some other things. However, anger, unresolved, becomes rage. Rage is very bad because it is impossible to resolve it without, like, going postal.

So, given a choice between being pissed and working it out and being pissed and having it come out, "sideways", I counsel my patients to do the former. And if the "physical or emotional violence against others" doesn't work out, don't be too hard on yourself.

Dr. Ruthless

well cero....anger is like pain in that it gets your hand off the hot stove. but it is also the hot stove. i guess that's the problem with it, or the danger, rather. it is a vital and necessary emotion: provides fuel, provides courage, power, warning signs...but it is also an intoxicant under which one might not make the same choices, and it is not an intoxicant that leaves one lazy or happy or sleepy, it is one that makes you very sure of yourself and very busy and dramatically so. so i guess that's the danger of misusing such a tool. but some fear it too, i think, simply because it unsettles the waters, it feels negative, to some extremely so, or it reminds them of things they'd rather forget.

all that being said, it is also something that can keep you alive when everything else fails, or remind you that you have right to take up space, so its a good thing we have it. as Malcolm X said, "Anger is a Gift."

I'm too gentle and sweet to fight a War on Anger. :)

clearly you do not want to live in peace, with such an attitude toward our current crisis.

clearly you do not want to live in peace, with such an attitude toward our current crisis.

*hands you a flower*

I don't know what you're talking about, but I love you! :-D

well that makes two of us who don't k now what i'm talkin about.

gracias para la flor!

Anger: 0; Sylvia Privilege: 1

Keep startin' wars; I got more flowers! Yay!

*remains sweet and gentle*

you act like flowers aren't angry.

I have the PERFECT theme song for the "War on Anger" - Billy Joel's Angry Young Man. Its one of my all-time favorites. I've heard that Billy has broken piano strings while performing this one.

ah...i remember that song! i used to love that one. then again, i liked "Safety Dance" when it first came out, as WELL as the remix, so. what the hell's my opinion worth.

I was all set to say thanks to you, Nezua, and the commenters for making me laugh today, as I needed it. But then I got to the part where you said you liked Saftey Dance, and the tears came flooding back uncontrollably.

you act like flowers aren't angry.

LOL

ot: nez, if I had any more birthday money, I'd give it to you! hang in there.

thanks, donna. your feeling here is worth just as much.

Joan, i KNOW you mean tears of joy. and WE CAN DANCE, WE CAN DANCE, EVERYBODY LOOK AT YA HANDS

Thanks Democommie and Nez ... and, there are so many great senses of humor in this thread!

OMG ANGRY FLOWER POWER!!!

exactly!